“A human being is a part of the whole, called by us, “Universe,” a part limited in time and space. He experiences himself, his thoughts and feelings as something separated from the rest — a kind of optical delusion of his consciousness. This delusion is a kind of prison for us, restricting us to our…
Month: December 2006
NLP Gems – [3.1] The meaning of your communication is the response you get.
A few days ago I had the learning experience of spending time with someone who already knew it all and in the course of the conversation constantly reminded me how I seemed to regularly misunderstand much of what he was telling me. (er. saying). Learning experience you may ask? Yes it was. Here was a…
When the Discussion is Not Optional!
How about this case? The discussion is about workplace drunkenness, drugs or sexual harassment. You are in charge, and you must talk to the suspected person. Now, clearly this is not a place for “constructive criticism” or permission. In fact, it’s a discussion about “crossing the line”. Should you ask for permission for a dialog?…
Constructive Criticism
This is a situation that seems to have become a mainstream work cliché. Current thinking among many coaches and communication professionals states that taking an “ask for permission” approach to difficult conversations is the way to go. The reasoning here is that asking for permission is a prompt (or trigger), whose intent is to establish…